Do you ever get those weeks when nothing seems to go your way? Well, this week has been one of those weeks for me. Let me explain. Life has been pretty tough for me over the past five years or so. I lost pretty much everything, suffered serious depression, became an alcoholic, and ended up living in a hostel for the homeless and yes, I did give up. Then, I met some amazing people who cared enough to help me get back on my feet again. One of those was a minister, another was a counselor, and I met a number of great support workers along the way too. In time, learned to believe in myself again and believe that could start again. This week, though, I have been reminded that my depression is still there in the background, waiting to jump out and grab me when I least expect it, but I will not let it beat me and, this time, I will not give up. This post is for me, as much as it is for anyone else. It’s to remind me why I will never give up ever again.
1. You are never alone
When you face challenges of any kind, it can feel like you have to face them alone. That is never really the case, though, there is always someone, somewhere, who will lend you a helping hand, or give you a few words of encouragement. If you don’t look for that help though, it may not be able to find you. Sometimes you have to hold up your hands and say; “Hey, I could use some help here”.
2. If you never try you will never succeed
Whether you are reaching for new heights, or dragging yourself out of a hole, if you never really try, then how can you ever expect to succeed? Giving up doesn’t solve any problems and it won’t get you any further in life, so whatever it is you want to achieve it’s always worth giving it your best.
3. If you give up halfway, you end up back at the bottom again
If all you ever do is to start something, but you never finish it, you will be forever starting at square one again. Anyone who has ever tried to quit smoking will know that this is true. You do really well for a month, but just one cigarette and, before you know it, you are back twenty a day again.
4. Because you learn from setbacks
Whatever your challenge is, there will be setbacks. The important thing is not to give up at the very first hurdle, but to learn from your mistakes, so that you are able to jump the next hurdle cleanly. You know all the clichés; if at first you don’t succeed, Rome wasn’t built in a day and, if you fall off the horse, you get right back on it again.
5. You can prove something to yourself and to other people
If people have written you off, or even worse, you have written yourself off, then succeeding is the best way to put everyone straight. Just remember, though, that the most important person you have to impress is you.
6. If it was easy, it probably wouldn’t be worth doing
If something is going to be really worthwhile and rewarding, then it’s not going to be easily achieved. That means that you will need courage and stamina to see it through the end. If it’s worth achieving, then it will be worth the hard work getting there.
7. If something is difficult, that doesn’t make it impossible
It might be hard work and you might need a lot of self-control, or dedication, but is it really impossible? Impossible, is a word that people who give up often use as an excuse and it’s rarely the truth. Take a look around you and see all the ‘impossible’ things that other people have achieved and take some inspiration from what they have managed to do before you.
8. When you win, you will feel great
When you look back on how you struggled to achieve your goal, you will feel an immense amount of self-satisfaction and pride. When you feel like giving up, imagine how it will feel to succeed and that will give you the motivation to try again.
9. You will inspire others
Whether you just baked your first perfect soufflé, or you climbed Everest, you will inspire other people to go for their dreams too. If you have children, think about how that could motivate them to do well in life and how proud of you they will be.
10. You are nearly there
If you are thinking about giving up, then you have probably come a long way already. Now is not the time to quit, when you are so close to succeeding. Take a break if you need to, by all means, there’s nothing wrong with that, but don’t turn back and head for home; look up and reach for the summit. The view will be great when you get there.
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