Everyone goes through some tough stages in their lives and it can make you feel like you are pushing a heavy boulder up a hill with no one to help you. If you are not careful, that feeling of isolation, and the belief that the whole world is against you, can drag you down into depression and that will stop you being able to do anything to get yourself back on your feet. The first thing to remember when you do hit hard times, is that this experience will, eventually, make you a stronger and better person and it will lead to better times ahead. So, don’t let the buggers grind you down! Read these ten important things that are well worth thinking about, when times get tough.
1. Accept the reality of your situation
Don’t try to pretend that what is happening is not. If you are experiencing financial difficulties, for example, then the first step to fixing the problem is admitting that you do have a problem. Burying your head in the sand won’t make problems go away. If anything, it will only make them worse.
2. Remember that nothing is forever
Just because you are in deep doo-doo today, doesn’t mean that it will be this way forever. It may take time to fix your problems, but time will eventually make a difference. Remember, too, that not everything has to be fixed right now, today. Give yourself a break, and tackle your problems, one at a time, when you feel ready to do so.
3. Accept that you can’t be in control of everything
If someone is going to do the dirty on you, they are going to do it whether you like it or not. It’s much better for you, if you concentrate your efforts on the things that you can do something about and just forget those things that are outside of your control, or are inevitable.
4. Do get off your backside and do something about your problems!
Don’t just give up and throw in the towel. OK, so you should accept the things that you can’t control, but don’t use that as an excuse for doing absolutely nothing. An alcoholic can stop drinking, a bankrupt can start again, and spurned lover can find love again. You can’t just sit back and expect it to happen though.
5. Don’t blow things up out of all proportion
Seriously, what is the worst that could happen? When I lost everything, was being chased incessantly for money my by creditors, and I turned to drink, I thought that my life wasn’t worth living anymore. But, guess what? I’m still here, living and breathing, and I’m slowly putting my life back together again. This time, though, I get to build my life the way that I want it to be.
6. Don’t lose sight of what you can be grateful for
You don’t have to pray to God to say thank you for what you have, but remembering the things that you still do have to be grateful for can help you realise that, whilst things may be bad, they are not all bad. It sounds a bit of cliché to say that you should be grateful for things like food, a roof over your head, and clean water, but not everyone can take those things for granted.
7. Stay positive and stay focused
Do try to stay positive and focus on what you need to do to get out of the problems that you have found yourself burdened with. Try not to think too much about today, or tomorrow, think about what things will be like five, or ten, years’ time. All is not lost, so set yourself some positive, long term, goals and keep your mind focussed on those.
8. Celebrate each achievement as it happens
Remember that each of those tiny little steps, that you take towards getting your life back in order, are all steps in the right direction. Acknowledge the progress that you are making and give yourself a pat on the back for how far you have already come. Sure, there will setbacks along the way, but so long as you keep moving forward, you will get there eventually.
9. Take care of yourself
While all these things are going on your life, don’t neglect to look after yourself. You are going to need all your strength to win this battle, so eat properly and don’t, whatever you do, start drinking to try and make things better. Take care of personal hygiene too. If you have let yourself go a bit, you will be amazed at much stronger you feel after you have showered, shaved, and put on some smart, clean clothes.
10. Don’t ever quit and don’t be afraid to ask for help
The best advice for all for when you find yourself in hard times is; don’t even think about quitting. Get the help that you need, if you need it, and work hard to dig yourself out of whatever hole it is that you have found yourself in. You are not alone and there are plenty of people out there who have climbed their way out of the very same hole that you are in right now.
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